I was reading 'Her World' magazine (July's issue) when I found this article titled ' Friends Indeed!'. It's about six types of toxic friends that one passes in his/her course of life. When reading this, my thought went "Aha, I guess I'm one of the lucky ones to meet such people!" Yup, I've met all six types and yes, I have to admit that I, sometimes, fulfilled some of the criteria (hey, I'm not perfect okay!!). Here are the details:
1. The Promise Breaker The friend who constantly disappoints or breaks promises, most likely because she herself has been constantly disappointed when younger. (For me this is the most unacceptable ones especially if the person made me waited for her for ages. Geez, I hate wasting my time waiting for people. If you make a promise, please deliver it. It's nothing more terrible than empty promises coz they'll make other people (read: ME) lose their respect for you. I know there were times when I was the 'Miss Promise Breaker' and I wasn't proud of it. I definitely felt guilty for making the other party miserable. I'm sorry. But worry not, I'm a new leaf =D)
2. The Double Crosser The friend who betrays you either by backstabbing you or stops speaking to you without explanation, then later behaves like nothing happens. (Whoa, I'm really scared of this type. Backstabbing is NOT COOL. If you think those people who you backstabbed won't find out, you're wrong. Words spread faster than light. It's definitely an act of the coward. Why? Coz in ancient world, those who stabbed their opponents from the back are definitely called COWARD as the opponents had no chance of defending themselves. Same goes with friendship. I, sometimes, do stop talking to people without explanation. If I did this to you, it simply means: I'm angry at you and I refuse to talk to you coz I'm pretty sure I might say something that might offended you in any ways. So turn around and leave me until I cool down so that we can discuss about it sensibly)
3. The Self-absorbed The friend who listens to you only because she's waiting to speak. (This type is the hardest to meet. Most of the self-absorbed people that I met didn't even care to listen to what I said at all (or could it be I was saying rubbish?). There are a lot of these people in my current college and I personally know one of them. Euurrghhh very rude, I might say. How do I deal with such people? I stop paying attention to what they're saying hahah. That should give them the taste of their own medicine. Do you feel hurt by that??? Well, that's how the rest of us felt when you ignored our words hahaha)
4. The Discloser The friend who doesn't understand the concept of 'confidentiality'. (Wahh, these are the type of people who you should never trust with your secrets. They're the kay-poh ones. Always want you to update them with the latest news and the next thing you know, your secret is on the front page of the news!! Luckily, I'm not the kind of person how easily shared my secrets with others. Imagine if these people entrusted with their company's sensitive info. Wonder if the company will end up bankruptcy? =P)
5. The Competitor The friend who struggles to be happy for your success. (Well, I am the competitor. Not to say I struggle to be happy with my friends' success, I'm genuinely happy for them but at the same time I feel envy. If they can succeed, so can I. Maybe I'm a bit greedy, for wanting all the good things to myself, but who doesn't?)
6. The Fault Finder The friend who has a problem with what you say, do or wear. (Hahaha, I love this one. They're what I call the pessimists. Funny to see how they see a train at the end of the tunnel when everyone else sees the light. These people are the vampires, they suck all the positive energy out of you. O Lord, please do not let these people cross my path, for them will turn all milk sour. If you're one of these people, enough is enough. Stop whining and start enjoying your life.)
It's not easy to deal with these people, but I have to say that dealing with them will make you realized that with all the flaws that you have, you're not that bad at all.
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