Model of Love =p

I received many comments on The Four-Letter Word post.  Some people agree with what I said and some don't.  The purpose of me writing the post was not to say that my view is the RIGHT one, but rather as a way for me to express and share my two cent's worth.  After reading all comments, I decided to share what I learned in class on the matter of love.

First of all, what is love?  According to psychologists Baron, Branscombe and Bryne, love is a combination of emotions, cognitions and behaviours that often play a crucial role in intimate relationship.  This means love does not limit to just your sweetheart but includes to your family and friends as well. In my previous post, the love that I referred was the love to that special someone.  So back to the topic, there was a model of love that I learned.  It's called the Sternberg's Triangular Model of Love.  Please bear in mind that this IS not the one and explanation valid ok.

Now, think about your current relationship with that special someone.  Which group do you belong to?  Liking?  Companionate love?  Empty love?  Fatuous love?  Infatuation love?  Romantic love?  Or Consummate love?

For me, of course I’ll go for consummate love.  To have all three requirements: liking, intimacy and commitment is possible.  I don’t think it’s hard because Uncle Sternberg didn’t mention that to be in consummate love you gotta have 33% of liking, 33% of passion and 33% of commitment.  As long as you have these three criteria, regardless of the percentages, I think I can call it consummate love.

Whatever the theory is, for me the most important and crucial thing is not how you fall in love or what type of love you’re in, but rather how to stay in love with the same person.