62 Days..

OMG!!  Tomorrow is Halloween!!!! Huhu, scarreeyyyyy.....

And you know what the scariest part is?  Knowing that you only have another 2 months before New Year!!  Man, that's fast.  It’s like driving an EVO7 on highway!!  I feel like it was only yesterday I had my New Year hol and now a new one is coming.  Have I accomplished all the things I planned this year? Almost, yup almost.

I really hope that I can make the best use of the remaining 2 months of 2009, coz I'm sure 2010 will be an even busier year for me.

Excess Baggage

I was watching Oprah's Show earlier and the guest was talking about excess baggage.  He said that a lot of people carry excess baggage with them.  I don't mean the extra baggage you carried when you're travelling; it's the other excess baggage, emotional xcess baggage.  An unneccessary emotional burden.  I totally agree with him.  Sometimes we don't mean to have all these unwanted burdens but it seems that they manage to creep into our lives, and minds, without we even realized it. Before we know it, they become the centre of our lives and suck most of our time and energy.  We’ll end up grumpier, more stress, and confused. To make things worse, before we know it, we turn into ogres hehehe....

My advice: don't be so stressful.  It's not good for our health, and our social life.  If things get worse, go down to Aquaria and see all those beautiful fish!!! Or grab a piece of choc cake =)

The Most Influential People in My Life

Why do we need family and friends?  Well, humans are social being.  We need each other in order to stay alive.  Wait a minute, some people claimed that they can live all by themselves?  Really?  I don't think so.  Even Mogli needs the wolves to survive.  I mean you need to have people to supply you food right?  And the telco and electricity companies?  Or the car manufacturer?  Bankers?  Police?  You don't need those?  You mean you live like a caveman?  Oh, now I get it.  But still you need your parents right?  If not, how come you're here on Earth?  Or perhaps you dropped from the sky huh?

For me, family and friends are important.  They're vital.  I admit that they're the ones who responsible to make my life more interesting, more worthy, more challenging.  Without them, I'll be a human without soul.  Geez sounds like a vampire hahah.  Even though they can turn out to be a sore sometimes (heheh) but I love them still.  And I'm glad despite my bad habits and mood swing, they still accept me for who I am. Hugs and kisses to y'all!!!!

Back On Track =)

Just got a sms from a friend.  Mr Platinum is officially back yahooo!!!  Now life's gonna more interesting hehehe.  More gossips.  More food hunting.  More stupid things.  More crazy time.  More tummy cramps haha.  Hey Platinum Man, you still owe me my triple choc moist bday cake!!!  And presentS, with capital S at the end haha!!!  What do I want?  Lemme think, a new bag, a set of worth-reading books, a ticket to the place that remind me of my childhood, a 1-month trip to movies, holiday at Tanjong Jara Resorts, and of coz the hardest card on Earth!!   Heheh....a lunch is more than enough. One more thing,  please don't wear that ugly jeans again!!!  And can you drive the white car instead of the black one? =)

ps: How come shoes are not in my list? What's happening to me????

You Can't Be My Wife!!!

A guy friend, Mr I'm-Looking-for-a-Cook-to-be-My-Wife asked me if I know how to cook. Of course I do!!  Omelette, scramble-eggs, french toast, mmm...what else huh?  I think that's all.  I prefer to go to the nearest restaurant and just tapau (local slang for take-away).  It's more convenient for me.  Cheaper, easier and most importantly, tastier.  That's why I keep telling everybody, I eat fast food all the time!!!  Me and my fast foods.....happily ever after.  Back to my friend, when he found out I can't cook (yup, you read it right.  I CAN'T cook, not that I DON'T WANT to cook) he said "My dear, how on earth you said you can't cook? Every girl must know how to cook.  You can't be my wife then."  Erk, did I say I wanna be your wife?  Not in million years!!!!!  Geez, so perasan la this guy.  I thought this question is so out-dated but still there are people who think it's valid.  I wonder how this people survived from Ice age and creep into this millenium, fast-charging world??  Wrong flight I guess.  Or maybe they sneak into the cargo area heheheh.  That's why their brains are empty like a box hahah!!  Aida, grab yourself okay.

Isn't it funny to see that my species, the Malays, considered the ability to be a great cook as a must-have criterion for being a good wife!!  Is it true Mommy?  Where should I categorized myself then?  A not-so-good wife?  Wait a minute, that's for those unskilled cook.  I don't even know how to cook so I guess I must be in the Never-Qualitified-to-be-a-Wife category hahaha.  Hey big sis, wanna join me???  Man, that’s one funny way to see if someone is qualified to be your wife.  What happened to understanding, loving, doesn't talk much (disqualified again =p) , never question on my whereabouts (disqualified again, sigh), good heart, intelligent?  Is being a great cook as important as her love for you?  If she doesn't cook, that means she loves you less?  Then you should start pick up girls in front of the cooking schools.  Just an advice, there are more men than women in cooking school so open your eyes as big as you can!!!!

Guys, I know you love to find a domestic goddess for yourself but ask yourself if you're qualified to be called a god, to be next to a goddess.  I just afraid that even if these goddesses do exist, they don't even bother to look at you, even form the corner of their eyes.  Females nowadays are born with brains and we know how to use our brains.  We wanna marry a real man, not someone who’s pretending to be one.

Girls, next time if a guy asked whether or not you can cook, ask him "Are you a real man, or a coward hiding in the physique of a man?"  That should deserve them right.

And to Mr I'm-Looking-for-a-Cook-to-be-My-Wife, YOU CAN'T BE MY HUSBAND because it takes a real man to be one.  Next!!!!

The Silent Tears

Sometimes I hate it when people misinterpret things that I said.  It even worse when I said something that supposed to be good but people saw it as something hurtful.  I know I'm not good with words, I don't know how to say something in its finest and most beautiful way.  I just don't know. It’s terrible to know that something nice that you hope to come out from your mouth was heard as something bad to someone else's ears.

Like what happened today.  Perhaps I should just say something simple from now on.  Perhaps I should just keep my mouth shut.  Or maybe I should just stop interfering with people's lives.

I'm really hurt, I really am.

Thanks for telling me about it.  At least now I know the limit.

Oppss!!! I Did It Again!!

I just can’t believe myself!!  How on earth could I let myself into this mess, again?!  Sigh.  I'm pretty mad at myself right now, for being too clever to let it happened again.  Sweety, next time think using your wonderful brain instead of your full-of-emotions heart!!  And never, ever forget the pledge that you took.  Now look at what happened!

I know it's not fair for me the generalize everyone, that will be a self-fulfilling bias but I couldn't help it when every single person seems to be exactly like that.  And boy, they're so good in giving excuses when you caught them red-handed.

I just hope this is the last time such stupid thing ever happens to me.  Guess I should have read and constantly remind myself about the pledge.

Let's Learn Greek

Yesterday class was very interesting.  Mr Storyteller did warned us that the whole class would be rather confused as there would be lotsa biological terms mentioned (FYI, Mr Storyteller teaches me Leadership Life Skills so biological terms in this class would be so...out of mind I guess). However, interestingly, out of so many bombastic words mentioned, I attracted to one. L.O.V.E. I know, I know, some of you will go "Enough already Aida! This is your 3rd post on the topic!!" Well, guess what? It's my blog, and I'm the one in control of whatever thoughts that I jotted in. As adult, I take full responsibility of every word written.

Back to the word LOVE, I think Hollywood has made the word become too commercialized. Why did I say so? Just take a look at any Hollywood movies. Whatever the genre is, there surely will be love element in the story as well. For example, Transformer: Revenge of the Fallen. I'm sure the genre of this movie is Adventure/Action/Sci-Fi but Hollywood never fails to include the steamy element in it. Perhaps it's one of the way to sell the movie (the other way is to get hot, sexy, almost slutty-like actresses). As far as I know, the real Transformers (the cartoon version back in the 80's) never had this kind of thing. Perhaps the robots got caught with the Hollywood bug as well. It just so unrealistic to me when you're in the midst of war and were so busy trying to save your life, you still have time for a long, deep, horny kiss?? Perhaps Sam thought he would never have a chance to live to experience another kiss. Duh. See how Hollywood interpret the word love = sensual feelings and that makes common people like us fool by this misinterpret word and thought that love = sex. Which means that if you love someone, you gotta sleep with him. I have nothing against those who are in love and sleep with their partners, it's up to you guys whatever you wanna do. As adults, you should know what is best for you. Whatever you do, don't forget the rubber yea!

Geez, I almost forget the best part about the class. Mr Storyteller said that English only have one word to describe the various types of love and he later then shared with us his knowledge of Greek language regarding the concept of love, which I guess he found out from Bible. There are 5 words which are :

1. Phileo : or philia, is the dispassionate virtuous love, a concept developed by Aristotle. It includes loyalty to friends, family, and community, and requires virtue, equality and familiarity.
2. Eros : is passionate love, with sensual desire and longing. It can be interpreted as a love for someone whom you love more than the philia. It can also apply to dating relationships as well as marriage.
3. Agape : is general affection for someone or something. It can be described as the feeling of being content or holding one in high regard. For example love for good food, or children.
4. Storge : is natural affection, like that felt by parents for offspring. Often use as as a descriptor of relationships within the family. It is also known to express mere acceptance or putting up with situations.
5. Thelema : means "desire". It is the desire to do something, to be occupied, or to be in prominence.

So now, boys and girls (heheh), I hope we all have a clear understanding of the types of love. Even though the feeling 'love' can be differed as five separate feelings, but I think it is possible for us to have few of these so-called types of love towards one particular thing. LOVE. Whatever names people want to call it, just be glad that at least you were given the chance by the Mighty one to experience the joy and pain of love.

Model of Love =p

I received many comments on The Four-Letter Word post.  Some people agree with what I said and some don't.  The purpose of me writing the post was not to say that my view is the RIGHT one, but rather as a way for me to express and share my two cent's worth.  After reading all comments, I decided to share what I learned in class on the matter of love.

First of all, what is love?  According to psychologists Baron, Branscombe and Bryne, love is a combination of emotions, cognitions and behaviours that often play a crucial role in intimate relationship.  This means love does not limit to just your sweetheart but includes to your family and friends as well. In my previous post, the love that I referred was the love to that special someone.  So back to the topic, there was a model of love that I learned.  It's called the Sternberg's Triangular Model of Love.  Please bear in mind that this IS not the one and explanation valid ok.

Now, think about your current relationship with that special someone.  Which group do you belong to?  Liking?  Companionate love?  Empty love?  Fatuous love?  Infatuation love?  Romantic love?  Or Consummate love?

For me, of course I’ll go for consummate love.  To have all three requirements: liking, intimacy and commitment is possible.  I don’t think it’s hard because Uncle Sternberg didn’t mention that to be in consummate love you gotta have 33% of liking, 33% of passion and 33% of commitment.  As long as you have these three criteria, regardless of the percentages, I think I can call it consummate love.

Whatever the theory is, for me the most important and crucial thing is not how you fall in love or what type of love you’re in, but rather how to stay in love with the same person.

The Four-Letter Word

I was just finished my test earlier (which was okay =p) when a girlfriend, Miss I-Love-Scones, called me and upon hearing her trembling voice, I know she got into another fight with her beau, again.  Being a good friend (really?) and a psychologist-to-be (haha!), I had the cell phone glued to my ear, listening to the details of the World War III.  Then she asked me, "Babe, how do you know if you're in love with someone?"  I was like, oh no, not that question again!!  That was her favourite question whenever she’s having argument with her beau, which always over the silliest thing on earth, and as always my answer will be "when you feel the tling, tling, tling feeling during your first kiss"  I know it is not a helpful answer, but it's better than a long mmmm, right?  Seriously and honestly, I have no idea.  I've been in relationships before but still I don't have the right answer.  I ask this question to Mommy before and her answer was "You know it when you experience it"  But how am supposed to be aware of it if I have no clue about it????  Perhaps I should ask Big Sis hehe.  I'm sure she has more experiences in this matter as compared to me haha but I think I know what her answer will be: when he has a platinum credit card haha!!  Right sis?  Don't get her wrong, she's not being materialistic, she's just being realistic okay.

I don't think there's any right answer on how to know if you're in love or not.  It really depends on the person himself.  Different people, different tastes, different preferences. Of course, being in relationship doesn't mean you're in love but as for me, perhaps it is when despite all his bad habits, I still see him as the most wonderful guy I've ever meet, which is a fat chance to happen coz I can get annoyed easily at times haha!!  Looks like falling in love is still a looooooong way for me.  Until then, I should just ask other people about it.

ps: If you guys happened to know anyone that I might attracted to, do tell me!!! Heheh =)

Locus of Control

There was an interesting term that I learnt in class yesterday.  Locus of control. Mr Storyteller asked the entire class to give definition to this term.  First thing that came to my mind was, well, locus sounds like hocus pocus and so Harry-Potter-like so it might probably mean the ability to control spell craft haha!  No seriously I thought it was something to do with the centre of control of oneself. It turned out to be the area of control.  Hah, not that far!  We were then asked to do some sort of questionnaires to find out about our locus of control and surprisingly I scored 60!!  Hoho that's quite high considering the avegerage score was like 54.8.  I was surprised myself.  Perhaps I cheated hehe.  After rechecking my answer, I didn't cheat.  How on earth I managed to score 60??!!

There are two side of the locus: internally and externally.  Internally means that the person's self-control is within himself.  He can motivate himself into doing something.  Externally, on the other hand, means the person's self-control relies on external factors such as other people, events or things.  According to my score, my locus of control is internally.  That simply means that I have such willpower that if I set my mind, I can climb the Mount Everest! Whoa! Wait a minute, Mount Everest? Me? No way!! I hate cold!! I can even get brain freeze in the lecture hall, and I'm talking about Mount Everest???  I guess my brain did freeze after all, so bad that I can't think properly haha!!

To those who want a copy of this test, just drop me an email or comment so that I can email it to you guys.  I really don't know how to attach files here (except pics =P) hehe

Selfish? Who? Me?

From Dictionary.com

Self-ish –adjective

1. devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
2. characterized by or manifesting concern or care only for oneself: selfish motives.

As far as I concern, I never mention that I only think about myself and don't bother about other people at all.

Enough said.